An Outsiders View of Human Mating Habits
Every now and then I receive postcards from someone who names himself Uncle Travelling Matt, he addresses me as “Gobo” and seems to be on a journey to discover what humans and our world is all about. I thought I’d share with you the latest letter he sent me:
Dear Gobo,
Lately I have been exploring one of the most fascinating aspects of the humans, namely their mating habits. It seems that humans are one of the few mammals, or in fact one of the few creatures on this earth, that can have sex whenever they want to – with whoever they want! Yet, curiously enough, most humans lead frustrated lives with much less sex than they wish to have. Had this been a gender-spesific problem, a problem based on their silly laws, their frail physique or even access to partners, it would’ve been understandable, but none of these things seem to be true.
Both the male and female part of the human population suffer from the same frustration, the laws which once forbid sex with anyone but their husband or wife (remind me to tell you more about this ‘marriage’ thing some day – it’s hilarious) have long been abandoned in most societies. Their bodies are more than capable of having sex each day, and there are members of the opposite sex around all the time – so supply is not a problem either.
So what is it that holds these creatures back from following their needs and desires? You’ll laugh when I tell you, but it is absolutely true no matter how ridiculous it sounds.
Are you ready for it?
Are you sure?
Ok.
It is their insecurities.
As far as I can tell, the human race is not really controlled by laws, not really controlled by biology, physiology or religion. It is controlled by peoples insecurity in themselves.
People are scared to death of losing approval from others, and for some reason their own approval of themselves do not seem to be enough for them. Humans are scared of losing the security that they get from being accepted by society, because they believe that if their actions differ from that of others they will be outcasts.
This is, of course, ridiculous. And luckily there is a small group of humans who have understood just how ridiculous this is.
These humans understand that their own approval is what matters. They care only about what people they respect and admire – because they have the same philosophy – thinks, and knows that as long as they act in accordance with what is right for them, for their emotions, for their logic and for their conscience, it does not matter if others do not approve. And more often than not, the people who at first disapprove, will eventually become their biggest fans.
They also understand that living life in accordance with what is right for them will not make them outcasts from society. In fact, it will attract others with the same philosophies, the same interests, and the same desires.
These are the people who live rich and happy lives, lives which are filled with the kind of people they want to be around and the kind of adventures they want to have.
These are the people that get laid a lot.
Sincerely yours,
Uncle Travelling Matt.
Tj Guttormsen is a Norwegian lifestyle- and attraction coach. He runs 
This is the first time I’ve seen this spelled out so.. what’s the word?..Easy and truly.
Uncle Travelling Matt is a brilliant guy
nja det var nå en måte å si det på
ingen som nekter meg å ha sex med hvem som helst men hvorfor gjøre det når det ikke gir meg noe;)?
Menn generelt har ikke det problemet har jeg skjønt men vi kvinner trenger litt mer
Og desuten har jeg ikke lyst på en mann som løper rundt og har sex med hvem som helst når som helst
Forøvrig en morsom mann han uncle travelling matt
Det handler ikke om at man SKAL ha sex med alle man kommer over, men at man ikke skal holde tilbake på grunn av utdaterte sosiale normer og lite intern trygghet når man møter noen man har lyst på.
Om du ikke gjør det, så er du en del av de menneskene Onkel Matt omtaler på slutten her og ikke en av de første. Og i så fall tilhører du den lille delen av vår befolkning som alt har skjønt dette, og lever slik de vil
Utrolig bra skrevet, igjen! Skal sende link til denne siden til venner, så andre får lese dette også, for så bra er det!
Flere folk burde levd sånn som han beskriver på slutten der, istedenfor for sånn som han beskriver i begynnelsen. Folk bryr seg alt for mye om hva andre folk tror og mener, og er så redd for ikke å bli godtatt osv osv. Det er ikke noe sunt å leve sånn! Jeg er virkelig glad for at jeg er av de menneskene som han beskriver på slutten der!
jeg skal lese det igjen,engelsken min er litt rusten
og det var en del ting der jeg ikke forsto 
men ja jeg syns det er deiliog å viktig når man kommer dit at man ikke lenger tenker på hva andre syns og mener,ikke riktig der hele tiden jeg men jeg kommer etter
Min erfaring er at du kan ha så mye sex, med så mange partnere du bare vil uten å få noe rykte på deg, så lenge du ikke oppfører deg som om du er helt hjernedød (blond
) og motivasjonen er fordi du ønsker å ha sex (ikke en validering på at du er attraktiv).
Jeg har gjordt som jeg ville siden jeg debuterte og har aldri (av det jeg vet…) fått noe ubehagelig rykte
Og skulle noen finne på å slenge dritt så værsegod! Jeg koser meg og det er det viktigste 
he he