A numbers game..?
We humans like to quantify things, and using numbers is one of the best way we’ve come up with to describe the world around us. Ask any mathematician and he’ll tell you that everything boils down to math. Perhaps he’s right.
We use numbers when we describe ourselves, “I’m 174cm tall, approximately 74 kilos, 28 years old and my hair is 4 centimeters long,” okay, maybe I’m overdoing it with the hair-thing, but you get my drift. Some people also use them to describe others; “was she hot?”
“Oh yeah, she was a definite 9!”
A lot of peoples main concerns when looking for a partner also deals with numbers: “How much money does he make? How old is he? How tall is he? HOW many women has he slept with before me??”
To which the answers should be, of course, “enough to pay for my own stuff. Old enough to do what I want. Tall enough to reach from the top of my head and all the way down to the ground. And, of course, what the hell difference does it make?”
In some settings, numbers might be a good thing. It is, for example, always good to know if you have a high enough number of digits on your bank account to pay your rent next month. It’s also a good thing to know if the person you are looking for at a crowded club is 150cm tall, or 210. And it’s a good thing to know that when you buy a beer for $10 (I’m from Norway, these are the kind of prices we deal with) and you pay with a $50, you’re supposed to get $40 back from the bartender (if you’re a lousy tipper that is).
However, it is a bad thing to reduce other people to numbers. It simply annoys the hell out of me when I hear the following conversations from guys who are out ‘hunting’ for girls:
“Check out that 4-set over at the bar, the blonde is a definite 8, and the brunette is a 7! I’ll take 8 this time since I gave you the last high number!” Let me translate this for those of you who don’t speak idiot: “Check out those people over by the bar. I think the blonde girl is a little hotter than the brunette. Since I let you hit on the hottest girl in the last group, I get to hit on this one!”
I swear, I’ve heard conversations like these an alarming amount of times.
First of all: Who gets to decide which criterias make up a 7, a 7,5, an 8 and so on? Preference is subjective. Personally I have a weakness for petite brunettes with cute smiles. That, of course, doesn’t mean that I’m not interested in blondes at all, it just means that I have a tendency to be attracted to more petite brunettes than tall blondes. One of my friends has a weakness for tall, slender blondes and isn’t really into brunettes at all. So we have a problem: The whole basis for a 1 – 10 rating-system disappears. There is no way we can agree on a score that will be objective enough to accurately describe how attractive a girl is.
Secondly: What happened to the personality-part of it? I don’t know about you guys, but I could never be interested in someone just for their looks.
A friend of mine asked me a while ago: “Surely you’ve gone to bed with someone JUST BECAUSE they were hot, even if you didn’t really like their personality?” I thought about it for a few minutes, and I can honestly say that I’ve never done that.
So to counter these problems with numbers, I’ve adopted my friend Johnny Sopornos rating system, which is very simple. If I’m asked to rate a girl, there are only two options: Yes or No / Interested or Not Interested.
This rating is based ONLY on your personal preference, with no regards to how other people would rate this person. There are a million factors that come in to play: How the other person behaves, talks, smells, looks. What the situation right then and there is. How your state of mind is. How well you know the person. How much “in-the-mood” you are. And so on.. All these things are COMPLETELY subjective, and you should make up your own mind without even thinking about what others rate her or him as.
So this is me, encouraging everyone to stop rating people by numbers and start classifying them as genuine, unique individuals. Appreciate beauty, and meet as many hot and gorgeous people as you’d like – but make sure you never compromise yourself and your standards just because your friends would rate the person you’re talking to differently than you.
~TJ~
Tj Guttormsen is a Norwegian lifestyle- and attraction coach. He runs 
jeg har en forkjærlighet for barske menn uten hår;)sånne badboys typer,men de skal ikke oppføre seg som badboys*ler*men det betyr ikke at jeg ikke kunne vurdert deg;)
Nr er bare tull,men jeg vet da enda menn bruker nr på damer,ikke mer en 2 uker siden en kompis satt å pratet i tlf med en venn,så hører jeg..tja 7 kanskje…hehe var da man skulle ha hatt piska klar og daska for jeg er ikke en 7 jeg er en klar tier
Men det er vel med damer som med menn,vi kan falle for så mangt om bare rette tidspunktet er der.
0: Not interested
1: Interested
The trick is to stick to the one-digit numbers in the binary number system (it obviously works well in every digital system).
Aah, you once again got an awesome point! Keep doing what you do
maybeelise: Timing er alt ofte
Legend: Correct! That is the exact scale I use
Freckles: I find it hard to stop