The importance of social skills.
The Carnegie Institute of Technology did a success study of 10 000 people, and concluded that about 15% of their success came from knowledge and technical know-how, the other 85% came from their personality and abilities to work well together with others. Doctor Albert Wiggam studied 4000 individuals who were fired from their jobs, and found that only 10% of them were fired because they didn’t do a good enough job. The other 90%? They were fired because they weren’t compatible with the people they met in a typical day at work.
These two studies are just two of many scientifically based studies and experiments done all over the world that shows us just how important our social skills are. It’s not just about attracting a partner or having friends, it’s something that is critical for all aspects of your life! With good social skills, you will have access to amazing opportunities both professionally and privately that you’d never have otherwise. Employers look for employees who can work well in teams, handle clients in the best way possible, and who fits in with their staff. Women look for men with social intelligence, and people in general are more likely to respond to you in a favorable way if you possess good communication skills.
So, how do you improve your social skills instantly? One word: Practice.
To be a good guitarist, you have to play a lot of guitar. To be a good football player, you have to play a lot of football. To be a good social artist, you have to be social. This blog is filled with advice on how you can develop your social skills, become an attractive person and design the life of your dreams, and for as long as this blog lasts, I’ll be sharing more advice with you several times a week. But here is the real, dirty little secret: If you really want to get better with people, live a seductive lifestyle and build the kind of life you want for yourself – all you have to do is go out there and get more experience!
So, for the next week I want you to do this: Every night when you go to bed, mentally re-trace all the social interactions you had that day, think about what you did well, what you did to create good interactions, and try to figure out what you could’ve done to get an even better result! This simple exercise will make you more aware of how you behave in social situations, and give you plenty of tools to use later on when similar situations appear. Before you know it, you’ll start getting better results from every conversation you have, and all of a sudden it becomes incredibly easy to get what you want – anywhere, any time and from any one!
To your success!
~TJ~
Tj Guttormsen is a Norwegian lifestyle- and attraction coach. He runs 
En ting er å øve på å være sosial, men for å få gode fremskritt krever det ofte i tillegg å gå utenfor egne komfortsoner… I fjord sommer fulgte jeg med på sjekkeskolen din og beit meg merke i innlegget om øyenkontakt og tenkte at dette må jeg prøve!
Shit så vanskelig det var…
Men, med litt øvelse gikk det letter og det gjorde noe med hele holdningen min.
Helt utrolig hvor langt du kan komme med en selvsikker holdning og et åpent smil
Helt klart, holdning, smil og øyekontakt er noen av de viktigste byggeklossene for sin sosiale utvikling
I could not agree with you more. Great fact at the beginning of this post. Thanks. I blog a lot about social skills here – socialbling.org.
Looks like a great blog, I look forward to taking a closer look at it
Nice one TJ. Enjoyable and enriching as always. Wanting for more, I was wondering if you could recommend any other blogs you find worthwhile?
To be honest, I don’t really read much of other peoples blogs anymore. You can, of course, check out the Norwegian one that I write with my two co-instructors at Genuine Connections if you haven’t alread, it’s located at http://sjekkeskolen.vgb.no, and the blog that Stephanie linked to a little further up seems promising too.
You can also check out Steve Pavlinas blog here: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/ it’s one of the busies self-development blogs in the world, and Steve is a great guy who I had the pleasure of meeting in Vegas in January
Takk og thank you brother.