Here’s his article on how to set up threesomes:

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How will you benefit from this article? Simple. After reading it, you will be able to have threesomes. Read it, take the right action, and enjoy the results. Life is beautiful.

Sounds like a good deal? Let’s go.

Actually, whether you suspected it or not, many times in your life you were just a few words/sentences/moments away from having a threesome.

If you would have known WHAT to say at the right moment – you could have gotten it.

However, before you were blind. From now on – you will be able to SEE J

BRINGING UP THE SUBJECT OF A THREESOME

As any female reader knows (and male ones will learn in a few moments) – ALL women have bisexual tendencies.

This is a fascinating subject and I go in depth into it during my Sexual Mastery Seminar.

In short, what you have to know is this: All Women Are Bisexual. (Well, almost.)

Knowing that at least 70% of women from time to time dream of at least SOME intimate play with other women, you will present this as a fulfilling of HER dream.

Important note: Do not use the words “bisexual” or even mention bisexuality when you talk to your partner. In modern society, this word has too much of a negative connotation. (I also explain this stuff about negative social programming and about the “Matrix” and how it influences male-female dynamics during my seminar.)

Back to the subject now. Find out if your woman ever had such desires. Be cool.

Example: “I just learned that many women are actually erotically attracted to other women,” may be a good beginning. Do not be bounded to this phrase, though. Depending on your maturity and on how long two of you know each other – you can easily find an appropriate way to introduce the subject. Do not be overexcited. Just be cool and curious.

Here is the gold:

The key in knowing how to have a threesome is your mindset – you are doing it FOR HER. And in fact – you should be! Do not push too hard or be over-reactive if she responds positively. Communicate that you are open-minded enough to allow her fantasy to come true for her.

Realize that if you propose things from a wrong angle – your woman’s first thought will be, “Ouch, I am not good enough for him any more!” She will start doubting herself, become jealous, etc.

These are absolutely logical and understandable consequences. And they are totally inappropriate here. So do not make an ass of yourself.

HEARING HER ANSWER

Therefore, be respectful towards her answer. If she says “No” or indicates that this subject never came to her mind and she is NOT into women – respect it and NEVER bring this subject up again.

If she expresses any interest towards the idea of a threesome – you will often hear that she wanted to try but was afraid to get one-on-one in bed with another girl.

This implies that if a man (this time it’s YOU, brother) would be next to her in bed – she would feel much better and at ease. She might be willing then to give it a try. Understand this point and take on a role of a GUIDE.

Become who you actually were destined to be – an EXPERIENCED and KNOWLEDGEBLE lover. The one who will take her by the hand and LEAD towards fulfillment of her hidden desires.

Important note: If she says “Yes” just for you – better discontinue the subject. This is another secret of knowing how to have a threesome. She should be excited and looking forward to this new intimate experience. Do not go for it if she does it only to please you. This will bring various negative issues into your relationship later on.

HOW TO BEHAVE WHEN SHE AGREES

• Do not become over-excited. Stay cool. Behave as if this is most usual happening. After all – you are doing it FOR HER. Don’t worry, both of you understand that YOU are also going to enjoy the experience.
• Do not stay on the subject too long.
• Do not talk about other women too much. This makes your woman feel uncomfortable. Be cool. Concentrate on HER. She is your Princess, right? Other girls are there only to ADD some bits and pieces to your mutual happiness.

SETTING UP THE RULES OF YOUR THREESOME

Learning how to have a threesome includes learning the importance of communication.

• Express your own ideas but – first of all – be considerate. Listen. Remember, the right mindset – you are doing the whole thing for HER.

Realize that if your first threesome goes well – you will have plenty of opportunities to expand your freedom of action in the future. But if it goes wrong – there might be no second chance for you.

Therefore, stay in control but show some flexibility and obey the rules when it comes to action.

• Knowing how to have a threesome also means paying attention to health and safety! Use condoms with your new girl. Take time and educate yourself about risks and health guidelines when it comes to threesomes. Learn the safety rules with regard to sexual play between two girls.
• Let the third person know that both of you practice safe sex. Better, do it in advance to avoid any misunderstandings.

All the above is very important info! Ignorance here may cost you your relationship. Period.

CHOOSING THE RIGHT PERSON FOR THREESOME

• You can go about it the same way a single guy would go looking for a girl. Clubs, bars, all sorts of private parties are excellent places to go looking for a new girl. Try different approaches.

For example, being direct and honest works fine for me. When one of my girlfriends sees someone she likes – I just approach that person and simply tell her WHY I am here tonight and that my girlfriend finds her attractive. I introduce ladies to each other right after that and we take things from there.

• Another way I often meet new playmates is this: my girlfriends like to chat up other girls. Since it is very easy for two girls to establish initial connection – they can bring up the subject of kissing each other, playing with other women, or simply “being into girls” quickly and easily.

That “sexy” talk may happen either before or after my girlfriends introduce those women to me. After that – everything depends on circumstances and calibration. Both things will come to you with time and experience.

• Trust your girl’s intuition. they might instinctively know how to have a threesome than you do sometimes.
• If you are in the beginning of your path – you may want something safer and simpler. In such case, your woman may already have an idea of someone in her social circle that she likes.

Be careful with your close social circle though! Keep your new project away from your friends – at least in the beginning.

HOW TO BEHAVE AFTER THE THREESOME

• Do not bring up another woman repeatedly after the threesome. This will hurt your partner’s feelings.
• Right frame of thinking: this was something you both shared and enjoyed. Any time you speak about that special experience after it took place – you both feel closer and more intimate.
• Discuss your experience. Find out how she felt during the threesome. How she feels afterwards. Change the rules if necessary.

Bottom line: enjoy, cherish, celebrate, and live a LIFE together!

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From the age of 15 or so I travelled the country pretty much on my own, or with a couple of friends my age, to compete in judo-competitions. I wasn’t just good at it, I was usually the best. I’ve won every single northern-Norwegian championship I’ve competed in, I’ve won several major national championships, and I’ve been the Norwegian Cup champion in the toughest class for my agegroup there was. The coach for the national team begged me to move down south, but I chose to do things on my own, because it was more fun.

At 18 I moved to Miami, stole the girl that half the football-squad wanted to be with. I’ve lived in Daytona Beach where I met Justin Timberlake, hung out in the pits at a major car-races (and I actually hate to watch racing), lounged at the beach and lived in a house with 14 beds, a pooltable, a pool, a jacuzzi and pretty much every other luxury you can think of short of a private massuse and butler.

I’ve been to Afghanistan during wartime to do volunteer work, completely on my own as one of the very few western civilians in the country at the time. I’ve been to the house of one of the Afghani religious leaders for dinner, and been accepted as family by him and his peers. I’ve been held at gunpoint by private securityguards, been awoken by a missile attack just down the street from my house, been detained by military personell (both Afghani and German) and ridden through the streets of Kabul on a motorcycle.

I’ve quit my job, moved out of my apartment and travelled all over Asia with nothing but a backpack and my passport, just because I felt like it. Spent time in a small village in Laos where I was not only the only white person, but the only English-speaking one within miles. I’ve gotten lost in a jungle in Malaysia, and one in Thailand – rescued by pure luck, and a dog. I’ve been to Cambodias first go-go bar, owned and run by russian mafia, with an American from the peace-core and a horny 45 year old german. I’ve hiked on mountains in Malaysia, scubadived with sharks and turtles under the stars in Indonesia, bungee-jumped in Thailand, gotten lost on the streets of Islamabad in Pakistan and partied with ten thousands of people on a beach to mention a few events.

I’ve written articles that have been read by tens of thousands of people, and I’ve done interviews for major newspapers, radio and TV on subjects regarding seduction, sexuality and women. I run my own company and less than a year after starting it I started making more money than I ever expected to, and through my work I’ve changed hundreds of lives all over the world.

Are these things the reasons why people find me attractive? Is this why I’m so successful in my interactions with others? Is this why I can live my life the way I do?

No.

In fact, I hardly ever mention any of these things when I meet new people. I actually never speak of them unless asked, and even then I try to keep it brief.

My experiences do not define me – my actions do.

I’m willing to bet my skin that most people I’ve gotten to know over the last six months or so know little or nothing about most of the things that I’ve mentioned in this article, simply because they haven’t had the time to ask yet, and I have no need to tell them. For all they know, I’ve spent my life doing absolutely nothing.

My success does not come from being impressive. My success comes from being interesting to other people – and more importantly, interested IN other people.

Don’t rely on your ability to impress, it is a fleeting and unreliable ability that will weaken every time you tell or show someone something impressive. Being interesting on the other hand, is consistent – no matter how long you’ve known someone.

Focus on your interest and curiosity in others, forget about your own story unless they ask, and the rest will take care of itself.

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My client nodded in agreement, and suddenly realized that he was actually an interesting guy himself now that he thought about it..

Every now and then I receive postcards from someone who names himself Uncle Travelling Matt, he addresses me as “Gobo” and seems to be on a journey to discover what humans and our world is all about. I thought I’d share with you the latest letter he sent me:

Dear Gobo,

Lately I have been exploring one of the most fascinating aspects of the humans, namely their mating habits. It seems that humans are one of the few mammals, or in fact one of the few creatures on this earth, that can have sex whenever they want to – with whoever they want! Yet, curiously enough, most humans lead frustrated lives with much less sex than they wish to have. Had this been a gender-spesific problem, a problem based on their silly laws, their frail physique or even access to partners, it would’ve been understandable, but none of these things seem to be true.

Both the male and female part of the human population suffer from the same frustration, the laws which once forbid sex with anyone but their husband or wife (remind me to tell you more about this ‘marriage’ thing some day – it’s hilarious) have long been abandoned in most societies. Their bodies are more than capable of having sex each day, and there are members of the opposite sex around all the time – so supply is not a problem either.

So what is it that holds these creatures back from following their needs and desires? You’ll laugh when I tell you, but it is absolutely true no matter how ridiculous it sounds.

Are you ready for it?

Are you sure?

Ok.

It is their insecurities.

As far as I can tell, the human race is not really controlled by laws, not really controlled by biology, physiology or religion. It is controlled by peoples insecurity in themselves.

People are scared to death of losing approval from others, and for some reason their own approval of themselves do not seem to be enough for them. Humans are scared of losing the security that they get from being accepted by society, because they believe that if their actions differ from that of others they will be outcasts.

This is, of course, ridiculous. And luckily there is a small group of humans who have understood just how ridiculous this is.

These humans understand that their own approval is what matters. They care only about what people they respect and admire – because they have the same philosophy – thinks, and knows that as long as they act in accordance with what is right for them, for their emotions, for their logic and for their conscience, it does not matter if others do not approve. And more often than not, the people who at first disapprove, will eventually become their biggest fans.

They also understand that living life in accordance with what is right for them will not make them outcasts from society. In fact, it will attract others with the same philosophies, the same interests, and the same desires.

These are the people who live rich and happy lives, lives which are filled with the kind of people they want to be around and the kind of adventures they want to have.

These are the people that get laid a lot.

Sincerely yours,
Uncle Travelling Matt.

We use numbers when we describe ourselves, “I’m 174cm tall, approximately 74 kilos, 28 years old and my hair is 4 centimeters long,” okay, maybe I’m overdoing it with the hair-thing, but you get my drift. Some people also use them to describe others; “was she hot?”
“Oh yeah, she was a definite 9!”

A lot of peoples main concerns when looking for a partner also deals with numbers: “How much money does he make? How old is he? How tall is he? HOW many women has he slept with before me??”
To which the answers should be, of course, “enough to pay for my own stuff. Old enough to do what I want. Tall enough to reach from the top of my head and all the way down to the ground. And, of course, what the hell difference does it make?”

In some settings, numbers might be a good thing. It is, for example, always good to know if you have a high enough number of digits on your bank account to pay your rent next month. It’s also a good thing to know if the person you are looking for at a crowded club is 150cm tall, or 210. And it’s a good thing to know that when you buy a beer for $10 (I’m from Norway, these are the kind of prices we deal with) and you pay with a $50, you’re supposed to get $40 back from the bartender (if you’re a lousy tipper that is).

However, it is a bad thing to reduce other people to numbers. It simply annoys the hell out of me when I hear the following conversations from guys who are out ‘hunting’ for girls:

“Check out that 4-set over at the bar, the blonde is a definite 8, and the brunette is a 7! I’ll take 8 this time since I gave you the last high number!” Let me translate this for those of you who don’t speak idiot: “Check out those people over by the bar. I think the blonde girl is a little hotter than the brunette. Since I let you hit on the hottest girl in the last group, I get to hit on this one!”

I swear, I’ve heard conversations like these an alarming amount of times.

First of all: Who gets to decide which criterias make up a 7, a 7,5, an 8 and so on? Preference is subjective. Personally I have a weakness for petite brunettes with cute smiles. That, of course, doesn’t mean that I’m not interested in blondes at all, it just means that I have a tendency to be attracted to more petite brunettes than tall blondes. One of my friends has a weakness for tall, slender blondes and isn’t really into brunettes at all. So we have a problem: The whole basis for a 1 – 10 rating-system disappears. There is no way we can agree on a score that will be objective enough to accurately describe how attractive a girl is.

Secondly: What happened to the personality-part of it? I don’t know about you guys, but I could never be interested in someone just for their looks.

A friend of mine asked me a while ago: “Surely you’ve gone to bed with someone JUST BECAUSE they were hot, even if you didn’t really like their personality?” I thought about it for a few minutes, and I can honestly say that I’ve never done that.

So to counter these problems with numbers, I’ve adopted my friend Johnny Sopornos rating system, which is very simple. If I’m asked to rate a girl, there are only two options: Yes or No / Interested or Not Interested.

This rating is based ONLY on your personal preference, with no regards to how other people would rate this person. There are a million factors that come in to play: How the other person behaves, talks, smells, looks. What the situation right then and there is. How your state of mind is. How well you know the person. How much “in-the-mood” you are. And so on.. All these things are COMPLETELY subjective, and you should make up your own mind without even thinking about what others rate her or him as.

So this is me, encouraging everyone to stop rating people by numbers and start classifying them as genuine, unique individuals. Appreciate beauty, and meet as many hot and gorgeous people as you’d like – but make sure you never compromise yourself and your standards just because your friends would rate the person you’re talking to differently than you.

~TJ~

It was a beautiful day, the sun was shining, the birds were singing and all of a sudden summer seemed to have arrived to northern Norway. Sitting in church I found it hard to pay attention to what the priest was saying, and what songs were being sung. Not only because I’m not a religious person, but also because I found myself overwhelmed by emotions. The grief I felt was expected, but what I didn’t expect was the feeling of calmness and peace. As the priest talked, my mind drifted to memories of old. Memories of my grandmother sitting by her kitchen table, smiling and laughing. Memories of going to bingo with her as a kid. Memories of how she took care of all of her grandchildren. Of her love for all those around her. Of joy, happiness and appreciation. All of a sudden, the tears of sadness and loss that were streaming down my chin were mixed with tears of happiness, and I caught myself smiling.

Whenever you experience loss, you have a choice. You can decide to wallow in grief and sadness, thinking only of what you lost, what could’ve been and what you want the most. Or you can focus on the memories that make you happy. The memories of when what you’ve lost made you smile, and then realize that even if you might not have any more of those moments, you had those – and they deserve to be treasured.

Whether you lose a loved one, break up with your partner, grow apart from an old friend or lose your job, it is up to you to handle it in the best way possible for you and those around you.

I lost my beloved grandma, and I choose to make any tears I shed over her passing, tears of joy and appreciation. I choose to smile when I remember her and her life. I choose this, not only because it makes me feel better, but because that is what she would have wanted.

What do you choose when you lose something?

~ TJ ~

I’m sorry for being absent for such a long time, but things have been a bit crazy on my part lately.. To make it up to you, I have a extra treat for all of you today! It’s a video from my friend Alex May who is coming to Norway this coming weekend to do a sexual mastery seminar, and in this video he talks about giving women multiple orgasms – something which I can strongly recommend playing around with

Are you in Norway and want to catch the entire 10 hour long seminar that Alex is giving next weekend? Check out www.alexmaysexualmastery.com!

Attraction is a mixture of several subsets of emotions. Or to put it in another way: You need to experience several emotions around someone to feel attracted to them. Typical emotions needed are rapport (the feeling of knowing or having something in common), comfort (being [at least somewhat] comfortable around them), excitement and sexual tension. Feel free to throw in other emotions as well, in my case, curiosity and happiness also comes into play more often than not, but I think you get my drift.

So let’s say that there is someone in your life that you feel comfortable with, who makes you happy and who you have no problems communicating with. This person therefore gives you at least two or three of the typical emotions needed to spark attraction, the final two (in this example) being excitement and sexual tension. In most cases when this happens, we put that person into the “friend zone”, a desolate wasteland where all (s)he can hope for is to spend time with you as friends. But let’s say you have some reason to want to explore your relationship with this person further, take it to a deeper level so to speak. How can you create that extra spark of attraction within yourself that will make doing so a great experience?

Well, any (good) hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner or attraction coach can tell you that there are many ways to anchor feelings to yourself and bring them out whenever you want, but I’m going to offer you a simple exercise that you can do completely on your own, without the help of a coach. An exercise that can help you spark attraction within yourself in those relationships where you think it would be worthwhile.

Sparking Internal Attraction:

Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Make sure there are no distractions around. Relax your muscles from the tip of your toes to the top of your head. Breathe deeply. Smile.

Think back to the last time you felt that incredible feeling of excitement and attraction. Think back to that person that made your tummy fill up with butterflies, your cheeks flush and your heart pound hard. See what you saw, feel what you felt, and hear what you heard. Let the feeling (s)he created fill your entire body from top to toe. Really get into it. Allow yourself to feel that attraction as strongly as possible until your entire body tingle.

Now move away from thoughts of that person, and think about just the feeling you’re experiencing. Feel your body and figure out just where these feelings of excitement, sexual tension – attraction, lie.

Is it in your stomach? In your chest? In your entire body?

Now, notice what it feels like. Is it a tickling sensation, a warm sensation, a throbbing feeling?

When you’ve got it all figured out, in such a way that you could actually describe to me what you feel and where you feel it, you’re where you should be in this exercise. You now know what attraction feels like to you, and you can use this to bring it into your mind any time you’d like.

So the very next time you think about this person that you’d like to be more attracted to, let your body bring back that same emotion that you just experienced. In fact, do it right now. Think of that person while you focus on keeping this feeling of attraction inside of you. See his/her face in front of you, and let the feeling you just created fill the air around you. Do this every time you think of him/her. The more you do it, the easier it will be to bring the feeling of attraction into your life on a daily basis, and to anchor it to anyone you’d like.

The next time you talk to this person, bring out this feeling inside of you. It is already anchored to the thought of him/her, now all you need to do is anchor it to his/her presence.  Before you know it, you’ll have realized just how attractive this friend is to you, and a new, amazing relationship can start to develop.

It’s all in your mind, and mind and body is one system that can influence each other equally.

“Why would I want to create attraction for someone I’m not attracted to” you ask? Well, I can’t answer that for you. I just wanted to show you how simple it is to create attraction within yourself. And who knows, maybe you’ll figure out how to create it within others too if you get good at this exercise?

~ TJ ~

In other words, it wasn’t really a day out of the ordinary (except, of course, that I don’t have 8-9 beers every day;). However, I felt fucking great all day long! From the moment I logged on to facebook and realized that almost a hundred people had written on my wall to wish me happy birthday while I was sleeping, to the moment I fell asleep in my bed 18 hours later, I was all smiles and rainbows.

Was it all the attention? All the smilies people sent me? Was it the chicken wings?  Well, the attention didn’t hurt, I’ll tell you that. The smiles and chicken wings also added to my day. But the number one reason I was so incredibly happy that entire day was this: My attitude.

It was my birthday, and I simply refuse to have a bad day on my birthday. It’s just not gonna happen. So all day long my head was filled with positive thoughts, with joy and with an attitude that said “smile, or get out of my way!” The filter I saw the world through simply refused to care about the bad stuff that tried to pop up here and there, and instead focused on the good stuff. I can’t honestly remember a single, bad thing that happened yesterday.

The point to this entry is this: You are in control of the way you view the world. You decide which filter to put on and which mood to be in. No one else can decide that for you, they can only try to influence you. And if you’re wearing the right filter, you won’t even notice the people who are trying to be a negative influence! So make your choice right now: What filter will you be seeing the world through today?

~TJ~

The Carnegie Institute of Technology did a success study of 10 000 people, and concluded that about 15% of their success came from knowledge and technical know-how, the other 85% came from their personality and abilities to work well together with others. Doctor Albert Wiggam studied 4000 individuals who were fired from their jobs, and found that only 10% of them were fired because they didn’t do a good enough job. The other 90%? They were fired because they weren’t compatible with the people they met in a typical day at work.

These two studies are just two of many scientifically based studies and experiments done all over the world that shows us just how important our social skills are. It’s not just about attracting a partner or having friends, it’s something that is critical for all aspects of your life! With good social skills, you will have access to amazing opportunities both professionally and privately that you’d never have otherwise. Employers look for employees who can work well in teams, handle clients in the best way possible, and who fits in with their staff. Women look for men with social intelligence, and people in general are more likely to respond to you in a favorable way if you possess good communication skills.

So, how do you improve your social skills instantly? One word: Practice.

To be a good guitarist, you have to play a lot of guitar. To be a good football player, you have to play a lot of football. To be a good social artist, you have to be social. This blog is filled with advice on how you can develop your social skills, become an attractive person and design the life of your dreams, and for as long as this blog lasts, I’ll be sharing more advice with you several times a week. But here is the real, dirty little secret: If you really want to get better with people, live a seductive lifestyle and build the kind of life you want for yourself – all you have to do is go out there and get more experience!

So, for the next week I want you to do this: Every night when you go to bed, mentally re-trace all the social interactions you had that day, think about what you did well, what you did to create good interactions, and try to figure out what you could’ve done to get an even better result! This simple exercise will make you more aware of how you behave in social situations, and give you plenty of tools to use later on when similar situations appear. Before you know it, you’ll start getting better results from every conversation you have, and all of a  sudden it becomes incredibly easy to get what you want – anywhere, any time and from any one!

To your success!

~TJ~

The following article is not so much an advice or tip, but more of a plea to everyone out there who are inches away from having who they want, but are too scared, nervous or messed up to just go for it. Now, usually when I talk about this particular topic with someone, they are frustrated because there are someone in their life that they want to hook up with, but they’re afraid to just go for it for several (bad) reasons. In this article, I’m going to take a look at some of the most common excuses people give, and help you understand why they are bullcrap.

So, here we go, the top excuses people give for not pursuing or taking initiative with the people they are attracted to:

He/She won’t be interested.

How do you know? People constantly underestimate themselves, and you are probably no better than everyone else. The rule of thumb is: If he/she doesn’t mind having a conversation with you, they’re probably interested enough for you to pursue this further and take it to the next level. And if you don’t yet know whether or not he/she would be interested in a conversation with you – find out! Grab your phone, log on to facebook or walk across the room to the person you’d like to speak with and strike up a conversation.

Of course, the truth is that we have conversations every day with people we’re not sexually or romantically interested in, but you can’t let a silly fact like that bother you. If you follow this rule of thumb you’ll never have to miss another opportunity to take any relationship to the next level. If you don’t, you’ll never know what could’ve been!

I don’t want to come off as desperate/easy/too eager.

This excuse most often come from women, and is a result of faulty social programming.

First of all, shame on you for even using a word such as “easy” or any equivalent thereof! If you haven’t already, check out my friend Johnnys Seductive Reasoning 101 and never ever think like that again! There Is no such thing as being easy/slutty/whatever. It is all just misconceptions.

Secondly, who the f**k cares how you “come off” as long as you get results? Do you think Apple’s Steve Jobs cares that some people might think he looks like a bouncing baboon when he does his product launches? Do you think lifestyle guru Tony Robbins cares if some people think he’s a know-it-all? Do you think Bill Gates cares if people think he’s a nerd? Do you think Casanova cared if people thought he was a player? No. They couldn’t care less, because what they do get results, and that’s the important part!

If you want someone, go for it. The worst thing that can happen is that he/she turns you down, and if they do, at least you’ll know that they aren’t interested and you won’t have to go around spending tons of time and energy wondering what could’ve been.

It’s the guys job to take the initiative.

Again a female excuse. And again, shame on you! I know that a lot of women love to be the sought-after, some to the extent that they figure that “if he isn’t willing to work for me, he isn’t good enough for me”. Please, get down off of your high horse, all you’re doing is making sure that you are missing out on a lot of great guys!

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with preferring confident guys and whatnot, but excluding someone just because they’re not the one to make the first move is in 90% of the cases just an excuse for you being too scared to do so yourself. And besides, some guys won’t even realize that they are attracted to you until you let them know that they have a shot at you. It might sound weird, but it’s true.

He/She is out of my league.

This is mostly a guy thing to think, but unfortunately a lot of girls fall into this trap every now and then too. Well, let me tell you this: There is no such thing as a league!

There are so many components of you that make you who you are, that it is simply impossible to tell who will and who won’t be attracted to you. Looks might capture someone’s interest, but unless your personality matches what they are attracted to, they’ll lose interest in seconds. And if your looks is not what attracts someone to you, your personality might. I’ve experienced both sides several times when I’ve met girls who were either incredibly physically attractive until they started talking, or girls who weren’t attractive at first glance, but who charmed my pants off (often both literally and figuratively) as soon as I got to know them.

The most important advice I can give on this subject is this: Don’t let your window of opportunity close. When you meet someone you’re attracted to, make your move and make sure you get to know them better. If you wait too long, they might put you in the dreaded “friend zone” and/or disappear, and if they do you’ll never know what could’ve been. It Is much better to risk rejection than to miss opportunities to have something great with someone you like!

I’m going to leave you with one of my favorite quotes, this time from Woody Allen who could just as easily have been talking about success with seduction instead of success in your career:

“95% of success is showing up.” ~ Woody Allen.

~ Tj ~